I hate to break it to you, but most people on social media aren't your real friends. They're mostly just random people who've found their way into your life thanks to the power of technology. If you think social media is stealing your joy, you must be more selective with your "friends". Yes, SOCIAL media is meant to broaden your horizons and expand your network, but if it's causing your blood pressure to rise, you'll want to start vetting your prospectives. If a quick review of their page shows that they aren't up your alley, don't send or accept a request. It's TOTALLY ok to not respond to a friend request if you think someone's not going to be a positive addition to your life.
So we're clear on #NoNewFriends unless they aren't dicks, but what about the old ones? Here's where things can get dicey. If someone is causing you stress or unhappiness when they pop up in the newsfeed, you have a few choices. Unfollow, unfriend, or become a zen master. I reserve the unfollow button for people who I don't want to remove from my online life completely, but may spam my feed with contest entries or frequently post things that aren't in my realm of interest (Sorry, hunters, I don't wanna see your dead deer pics). Do not feel guilty about unfollowing someone. First, they will never find out. Facebook does not notify someone that you've unfollowed them. More importantly, it's not selfish or wrong in any way to protect your personal energy. This is YOUR social media feed. You can choose what you want to see just like you choose your TV channels. This will help you stay in JOY when your online.
The more decisive option is the unfriend button. It's important to remember that we are not the morality police. Not everyone is going to see things through the same lense. I think grace is a great attribute to have, but for me personally, deal breakers are hateful opinions, constant complaining, or just flat out drama. If you're contemplating deleting your mother-in-law or your boss's wife, you're going to need to really think about whether you want to press that nuke button, but for random acquaintances, I'm pretty liberal with it nowadays. I used to be more concerned with hurting people's feelings by unfriending than I was with protecting my own energy, until one day I totally lost my cool. Someone whom I had previously considered defriending but didn't want to offend, who never interacted with me on my 99.9% uncontroversial, positive, uplifting posts, felt the need to pop up one day and publicly admonish me when they saw a chance to do so. I let my ego flare and handled the situation pretty poorly, to be honest, but my biggest mistake was not previously removing this person from my life. Had I followed my gut in the first place, I would have avoided the ridiculously unneccesary drama. Sadly, especially online, there are a lot of people ready to argue or point out any little mis-step you make, but if you can weed them out early on based on their interaction with others or the way that they carry themselves, it might make your social media life that much more peaceful.
Above all else, remember, it's JUST social media. At the end of the day, no matter what you do, you're not really harming anyone, and if someone gets their panties in a bunch because of what you're posting or if you didn't "accept" them as a friend, they probably aren't someone you want in your life anyway.
Hi! I'm Andrea Cummings. I am passionate about living a healthy lifestyle that I can MAINTAIN and that still lets me feel like I'm not being deprived. I like to exercise, but I also love to eat (nachos!). My main focus is to be healthy, not skinny, and to help others do the same! I love Jesus, but I also say fuck a lot, so if you're offended, I may not be the gal for you.